How and why Grey Matters Now?

The birth and journey to Grey Matters Now.  This is the story of the birth of Grey Matters Now and the journey that shaped who I am today and my evolving life purpose and mission.

About Katy:

Katy Bray is the Owner and Founder of Lead With The Lights On. I met Katy at a certification class I was attending.  She was a speaker and I was immediately drawn to her energy and her work. I felt like she was speaking just to me – ha!  I looked her up, we connected, and she became my endeavor birth doula. She is a genius and believes integrating the various aspects of leadership such as self, team, and higher purpose is key to the success of our emerging leaders. She is also an amazing, intuitive and genuinely kind human!  She and her husband and business partner Zebulon have been above and beyond comprehensively supportive and resourceful both professionally and personally.

About Me – a two part episode

I am a Social Worker by title that’s been working in social services at some capacity for almost 30 years. Over those 30 years I have worked in a variety of diverse fields and demographics. I have had the honor of working with people at both ends of life’s spectrum from reproductive health, to ropes courses, to hospice and so much in between.

It is my personal journey as much as my professional one that has shaped who I am and my life’s mission.

In this episode, I share my personal story. I open up and let myself be completely vulnerable.  Normally this wouldn’t be a big deal as I have told my story over and over too many times to count in the last 40 years.  In my mind, this was going to be the most simple and natural episode to record as my intention was to introduce an amazing woman, Katy Bray, who helped me synergize my ideas into one living endeavor and tell my personal story that led me to the place I am in now. Piece of cake right?  Not exactly…

This specific project or episode, became this unique and unconventional experience, as do most things in my life.  I have to say though, this passage I went through was unexpected and caught me completely off guard and unsure about how to process it at first. It sent me down some unfamiliar winding uncharted roads I had to figure out how to navigate. It took some exploring as it turned into visceral surfacing of emotions and then I actually had memories come back to me that have NEVER surfaced before. So – in the spirit of walking the walk and being way out of my comfort zone with an intention of sharing to universalize this experience, I processed these feelings live on this podcast.  

I had a big lesson in overcoming fear – don’t let the fear of your past keep you from moving forward. This was not easy for me – as a matter of fact, it has taken me forever to create this episode (3 separate recordings!!!). My hopes are that me sharing may help someone else go to that place of processing and healing. I certainly did not expect this experience to turn into Ms. Anne’s wild ride but it did and I buckled up and rode it.  Moving forward I hope that this takes you in the direction that best serves you.. fasten your seat belts, let’s go!


To find grief support contact any hospice in your area. Resources can be found through:

Not just for the immediately suicidal, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline Is a national network of local crisis centers that provide free and confidential emotional support to people in suicidal crisis or emotional distress 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

To find out more about Katy Bray and Zebulon Severson and their conscious based leadership program


Have the latest massacres and disasters left you feeling stunned, fearful, angry, saddened, or polarized?

This free-flowing conversation with my friend, colleague and fellow Social worker Kenn just happened to be a month after The Pulse Night Club shooting and the day of the massacre in the South of France – Bastille Day.

Are you ready to explore the ever-changing tone of the world and the emotional climate change that comes with it?

After a tragedy, shock and horror start to manifest into fear. Navigating through everyday life changes as our perception and new emotions make moving forward in a healing direction challenging. Do you find it hard to figure out how to move from reaction to action and to not be consumed by negativity? Humanity, community, courage, good and beauty exist in a huge way. Oh my goodness – the world has been on quite the roller coaster since this podcast! Join us for a broad open discussion about moving through our world with an open heart and mind.

Do you ever wonder why cat videos are so popular? What is it about animals that makes us feel so good? There’s a bond between animals and humans that is so powerful without even speaking a word.

It was an honor to have Robin Cohen, the director of the Pet Encounter Therapy program at the Helen Woodward Animal Center as our guest to explore and learn more about the unique and powerful human /animal relationship.

This organization has always been a trailblazer; evolving with the times and creating new programs as quickly as the world needs new resources!

Did you think that Helen Woodward Animal Center was just an animal rescue shelter? In this podcast, learn why they’re so much more! A nationally recognized center that provides a variety of services that benefit the community through educational and therapeutic programs for people and humane care and adoption for animals.

I encourage you to link to the HWAC website below and learn more about their impressive and comprehensive services…

The Mission Of The Helen Woodward Animal Center:

Helen Woodward Animal Center’s passionate belief that animals help people and people help animals through trust, unconditional love, and respect creates a legacy of caring. Sharing this philosophy with others, the Center inspires and teaches, locally and globally, the importance of the animal-human bond.

What exactly is a life coach? Someone who guides you to your own intuition and intrinsic ability to reach your goals. Rich says he likes to be like a mirror, reflecting back to his clients the best version of themselves.

In this episode Grey Matters Now explores the resources and compelling journey of a Life Coach. Meet and connect with Richard – a coach who does not sit on the sidelines and is VERY much in the game!

Richard Oceguera is the premiere personal development coach for professionals who want to Be Connected. He offers workshops, customized group training, private coaching and his weekly inspirational Facebook LIVE broadcast Motivation Monday.

In this podcast, we follow Richard’s inspirational journey and hear his own personal awakenings that shaped who he is today.

Learn more about Richard at

Ready to talk trash with folk artist and holistic health practitioner Rodrigo? A unique and deep character who’s collected wisdom along his organic journey living amongst many different cultures. Environmental steward and surfer meets Sanford and Son – we invite you to step into the “fun zone”.

This is the first of a series of podcasts about the environment. Protecting and helping the environment can seem like such a huge task it can leave us feeling overwhelmed and almost paralyzed. Meet Rodrigo; one guy that has been walking the walk and talking the talk of sustainability to live by example his whole life.

Join me and Rodrigo McCoubrey as we discuss how we can make a difference as an individual or a community to keep our planet beautiful. As he says “you’ve got to inspire by doing!” – Let’s talk trash!

Online Press, video, and Publications

  • The Surfers Journal, Volume Fifteen Number One, Page 81
  • Encinitas CBS8, From Trash to Treasure, March 9, 2011
  • Encinitas Patch, 2012
  • Surf Channel, August 19, 2014
  • Del Mar Lifestyle, March 28, 2016
  • The Surfer’s Journal, Volume 26 Number Three, Inside Cover, Rainbow Sandals Ad